The day of a Social Security disability evaluation is often filled with anxiety. It’s a moment where years of symptoms, personal hardship, and complex medical history are distilled into a brief appointment with a stranger. For many, that evaluation becomes a defining point in whether they receive crucial support—or walk away feeling unseen. Reflecting on my own experience, I’ve come to understand what the doctor who evaluated me for Social Security should have done differently.…
Chronic illness
Understand chronic illness, its symptoms, common causes, and effective management strategies to improve health and quality of life.
Beyond What They See: I Used to Wish My Pain Was Visible, but It’s Not That Simple
There was a time when I found myself quietly wishing that my pain had a face the world could see. I wanted a cast, a bandage, a visible marker—anything that could communicate to others what I was enduring. Living with an invisible illness often means your suffering is questioned, minimized, or outright ignored. So it seemed logical that if my pain were visible, I’d be believed. I’d be supported. I’d be understood. But as I’ve…
The Truth Isn’t Negative: Am I Being ‘Negative’ By Admitting My Reality With Chronic Illness?
Living with chronic illness means carrying a truth that is often invisible to the world. It means waking up in pain, navigating unpredictable symptoms, and silently adjusting to limitations that others may never see. And yet, when we try to express that truth—whether through conversation, writing, or simply answering “how are you?” honestly—we’re often met with discomfort, dismissal, or even accusations of being negative. So the question arises: Am I being ‘negative’ by admitting my…
How Selma Blair and Her Cool Canes Are Quietly Revolutionizing Disability Acceptance
How Selma Blair and Her Cool Canes Support Disability Acceptance Selma Blair, a celebrated actress known for her roles in film and television, has become a powerful figure in disability advocacy—not just through her words but through her visible and stylish use of mobility aids. Diagnosed with multiple sclerosis (MS), Blair has embraced her journey with honesty and grace, challenging long-standing stereotypes about what it means to live with a disability. Perhaps one of the…
Beyond Words: 7 Oddly Specific Metaphors That Perfectly Describe Fibromyalgia Pain
7 Oddly Specific Metaphors for Fibromyalgia Pain Living with fibromyalgia means navigating a world of pain that is often difficult to describe. It’s not one single kind of discomfort—it shifts, evolves, and sometimes strikes without warning. While medical terms might capture the clinical side, they often fall short of conveying the daily reality. That’s where metaphors come in. Sometimes, the only way to truly communicate what fibromyalgia feels like is through strangely specific, imaginative comparisons…
Silent Epidemic: Why It’s Time to Talk About the Scary Misdiagnosis Rate Women Face in Healthcare
For decades, the healthcare system has been failing women in ways that are often invisible until it’s too late. Among the most serious and overlooked issues is the alarming misdiagnosis rate women continue to face. From delayed treatments to outright dismissal of symptoms, this problem is more than a clinical error—it’s a systemic issue that affects the lives, health, and dignity of countless women. The Uncomfortable Truth Behind Misdiagnoses When a woman walks into a…
Bruised But Breathing: Because of Trauma, I Often Hate My Body – And That’s My Truth
Some wounds don’t bleed. They don’t show up on skin or in scans. They live beneath the surface, in silence and shame. For many survivors of trauma, one of the hardest, most unspoken struggles is the fractured relationship with their own body. This is mine. Because of trauma, I often hate my body. And that’s not a metaphor. It’s a fact I’ve had to face, over and over again. The Body Becomes a Battlefield Trauma…
11 Hard Realities: When My Long-Term Disability Was Revoked Because I ‘Don’t Look Sick’
When My Long-Term Disability Was Revoked Because I ‘Don’t Look Sick’ I never imagined that having an invisible illness would mean I’d have to fight to prove my suffering to strangers. I never thought I’d hear someone in a position of power imply that looking well equates to being well. Yet that’s exactly what happened. My long-term disability was revoked because I “don’t look sick.” That sentence changed everything. The decision was more than just…
10 Unspoken Reasons Why I’m Retiring From Advocacy as a Queer, Disabled Survivor of Abuse
Why I’m Retiring From Advocacy as a Queer, Disabled Survivor of Abuse There comes a time in every journey when continuing forward no longer feels brave — it feels like survival without self. For years, I poured my energy, heart, and lived experience into advocacy. I fought to be seen, to make space for others, to speak truths that were too often buried under the weight of silence. I showed up in rooms that weren’t…
7 Powerful 2021 Sundance Films That Nailed Authentic Disability Representation
The 2021 Sundance Film Festival offered a refreshing and long-overdue spotlight on stories that reflect the real world — including authentic disability representation. In a media landscape that often excludes or misrepresents disabled individuals, Sundance provided a platform for filmmakers who brought truth, dignity, and complexity to disability narratives. These films did more than just feature disabled characters — they told their stories with nuance, respect, and realism. From bold documentaries to groundbreaking dramas, these…